When It's Time to Make a Change

Lisa Anteau • December 28, 2023
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This week of the year always feels a little bit strange; almost like being in limbo. It’s a time that we’re focused on the closure of another year and ushering in a new one.  For many, it’s a time of reflection on what has been and what is to come. This reflection often leads us to the realization that we need to make a change. 

CHANGE...  One of the heaviest words in our vocabulary with the weight of its expectations, and one of the most difficult things to achieve.


During the course of the past year, I’ve been fortunate to speak to hundreds of potential Cooperative members in person, on the phone, and electronically via email and chat. In that time, I’ve listened and learned many things from them, for which I’m very grateful.


Here are a few of those kernels of wisdom that have inspired change in me, which I hope are also helpful to you!

Be purposeful with your possessions.

Things don’t get easier to let go or downsize with time – quite the opposite – they become more burdensome! If you own things that aren’t being used, whether it’s clothing, furniture, décor, or items that were gifted to you, it’s time to let those things go. Many current and potential Members have said this is one of the hardest things they’ve had to do, especially when they learn that their kids don’t want any of it. I’ve learned to preserve things of sentimental value in my memories, or in some cases digital photos that don’t take up physical space. It’s important to me that I don’t pass this burden along to my own children; to sift and sort through and make the painstaking decision on whether to hang onto every kitchen spoon and chair. Sell, throw, or donate on a regular basis.

Experiences make great gifts.

Having just lived through the “what do you get the person who has everything they need” debacle at Christmas, this lesson has been particularly valuable. How many times have you been asked who gave you a particular item, and you couldn’t recall? I’ve started to focus my gift giving around providing experiences for my friends and family to enjoy, such as concert or theater tickets, art classes, or even travel. The creation of new memories is the gift that continues to give throughout our lives.

Time is an UNrenewable resource.

We are all busy and life moves rapidly in our always-connected world. We all carry a computer in the palm of our hands in the form of a cell phone, and this is a distraction like none that has ever existed before it.  Time is the greatest casualty of our era, and the most priceless commodity. This is a daily battle and a work-in-progress for me personally, but one that has become more top of mind. I want to be in the places and with the people that matter the most to me.  If you knew today was the last day that you had to live, how would you spend it?

Be strategic with how you spend your energy.

Similar to time, energy is a resource that isn’t infinite, particularly as we get older. I’ve realized that in order to continue to live a long and fulfilling life, more time needs to be spent on building physical strength, challenging myself to learn new things, and remaining adaptable. Movement and activity are not optional, because if you don’t use it…you WILL lose it! There will be trade-offs, and this is by design.


This is why we plan for retirement; there will come a time when we can’t live a meaningful life outside of a full-time career because our energy levels simply won’t permit it. The same can be said about maintaining large homes, full schedules, and more “stuff”.


What I’ve learned is that the decisions around determining what is worthy of your energy (and time) should offer you contentment, fulfillment, and peace.   Oh, and if it eventually means less house and yard work, that’s okay with me too!

Gracewin News Blog

By Lisa Anteau March 20, 2025
As printed in the Northfield News, March 19, 2025 Housing co-op seeks final seniors to break ground on Northfield building By COLTON KEMP colton.kemp@apgsomn.com Those living in or around Northfield at or above the age of 55 can downsize while maintaining equity on a property by becoming a member of a prospective housing cooperative near the hospital west of Northfield. Gracewin Cooperative secured the purchase agreement for the land. It intends to construct a new residential building with 47 living units, underground and heated parking and a myriad of other amenities. By paying into one of the flexible buy-in options, people become shareholders of the co-op. The monthly payment on their unit is determined by how much is paid for the share purchase, as well as the size of the unit. There are eight different floor plans, ranging from about 1,000 square feet to about 1,400 square feet. All options have a balcony or patio, and an in-unit washer and dryer. Shares range from about $150,000 to $400,000, while monthly fees range from $1,200 to about $2,700. The more paid for the share, the lower the monthly payment. Gracewin Living Cooperatives Head of Sales and Marketing Lisa Anteau explained that being a shareholder in the co-op makes someone a member, meaning they own a piece of the building and the land. They also earn a flat 2% equity on their share. “This is bigger than you just owning, like, Unit 205,” she said. “This is you owning a share of Gracewin Cooperative. So that means the land, the building, the overall building itself and every piece of furniture in the building. Then they get an exclusive right to occupy one of the units as a member.” Once folks are bought in, they pay a monthly fee to cover all the expenses of the building, like maintenance, property insurance, sewer, water, gas, wireless internet, taxes and more. Electricity, cable, a landline and personal-contents insurance are the only things not included in the monthly fee. At Gracewin Cooperative, the planned amenities are extensive, ranging from a wood shop and car wash in the underground garage to a speakeasy and the owner’s lounge on an upper level. The monthly fee guarantees free access to all amenities, except for renting the fully staffed guest suite, which is $50 per night. The co-op allows pets. There are trash chutes on every floor, so residents don’t need to climb stairs to access the dumpsters. Everything is ADA-compliant, another key aspect to the co-op. Gracewin Living Cooperatives is the developer overseeing the project until they can get the ball rolling. The company hires all the initial contractors for things like lawn care and snow removal, as well as the property management. Until the building has reached 70% occupancy, the Gracewin Living Cooperatives team serves as the interim board of directors for the building. Once the threshold is reached, elections are held among the residents. “That’s very important, because then the people making the decisions on behalf of the co-op are subject to those decisions,” Anteau said. “They’re thinking about things like, ‘Do we put this in our budget?’ or ‘Do we need this?’ or ‘How much do we have to increase rates because costs have increased?’ They’re subject to all of those things themselves.” Filling a gap Only one other example of senior housing in Northfield uses the co-op model, Kildahl Park Pointe. Melisa Hanson, the housing coordinator for the city of Northfield, reported that there’s a long waiting list there, leaving “a huge gap” in the market. “What we’re seeing is folks are trying to age in place,” Hansen said. “So they’re putting their money in those [ADA] supports, but then the foundation isn’t getting addressed, the chimneys aren’t getting addressed, the windows, etc. Then we’re finding that type of maintenance gets deferred. When a young family comes to buy the home, oftentimes they don’t have the skills to do the repairs themselves. They certainly don’t have a lot of the money either.” Once an interested party pays a refundable $500 deposit with their reservation, they are added to a waitlist, which determines the order units are selected. Anteau said they need 24 people ready to move in to break ground, which she hopes will be this fall. “We know not everybody is going to be ready to move in on day one,” she said. Anteau went on to explain that, once they have three times the amount needed to break ground, they reach out to the first person on the waitlist and work their way down the list. If they have 24 people who say they’re ready to move in, construction can begin. She also said Gracewin Cooperative is not an assisted-living facility, but a place to retire and downsize for those stuck in a non-ADA-compliant, 4,000-square-foot home as an empty nester or some similar situation. Northfield resident Charlie Kyte said he and his dog, Sophie, have been living in a house much too large for just the two of them. He is among those already on the waitlist at Gracewin. “The fact that all my needs can be met at Gracewin is very attractive to me,” he said. “At first I thought the [share-purchase] fee seemed high. Then, I realized it included all property taxes and most of the needed property insurance, plus all the other costs of owning a house, which made it actually a good deal.” Martha Easter-Wells is also on the priority list at Gracewin, due to her love for Northfield and desire to stay in the community. “By signing onto the waiting list early, I will have a nice choice of apartments,” she said. “I went to see the Gracewin in Baxter and was impressed by the design and construction. There are a lot of nice features, both in the apartments and in the common areas.” MORE INFO For more information on the Gracewin Cooperative Northfield project, attend one of the in-person informational sessions at 3 p.m. March 27 at the Edina Senior Center , at 5280 Grandview Square in Edina, or the next local meeting is at 3 p.m. April 23 at the Gracewin sales office , at 2018 Jefferson Road, Suite I (the letter, I). Todd Metoxen, Gracewin Northfield’s local sales consultant, has office hours at the same office on Jefferson Road from 10-4 p.m. Monday through Friday, except Tuesdays he is there 10-1 p.m. He’s also available Saturdays by appointment, and interested parties can reach him at Todd@GracewinLiving.com or 507-222-8960.
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